I am afraid to make new friends.
This morning I am going to address something that has been bothering me for a long time.
My fiance’s best friend is a woman. This woman is my Maid of Honor. I get along with her very well, but to me she will always be my fiance’s best friend, this does not bother me. My fiance and her make plans and go out for dinner just the two of them, this does not bother me. She and my Fiance have a weekly T.V night that they spend hours in front of the T.V. watching a particular show that they both have been wanting to see (some I have interest in, some I don’t), they have been doing this for about 2 years or so, this does not bother me.
What bothers me is the stupid questions and replies that people tell me when I tell them that my fiance’s best friend is a woman. It’s almost always the same thing, I’ve pretty much memorized it by now.
This is how it goes after I tell someone that my Maid of Honor is my fiance’s best friend. (this has been coming up more and more due to my impending nuptials)
“And you let him get away with it? Your just comfortable with it? What if something happens between them? You trust them? Aren’t you jealous? If he was my guy I would not be okay with that.”
First off that first question: ‘And you let him get away with it?’ he’s a grown ass man, I am not his mother. If he wants to do something than he’s going to do it regardless of me. He does take in account of my feelings when he does something (just like I do about him) but ultimately hes going to do what hes going to do.
Second question: ‘Your just comfortable with it?’ Yea I am and what?
The third and fourth questions always come together; ‘What if something happens between them? You trust them?’ If something were to happen between them then I hope (if they actually do care about me) they would tell me, and of course I would be angry and sad and everything that comes with along with being betrayed. They have never given me a reason not to trust them I’ve been with my fiance for almost ten years, and I’ve known my Maid of Honor for about 6 years, so I trust them alot.
Fifth question; ‘Aren’t you jealous’ No I’m not. There has never been a time where I looked at them and thought ‘bitch better back off my man!’ I’ve said the line in jest but never out of emotion.
I can tell you the exact reason when I’ve been jealous of them and I will list them although it is not the type of jealousy most people expect
-I am jealous of the fact they can eat solid food (they went to Dennys last night, and I’m on a juice diet and I’m so hungry)
-I am jealous of the fact that they can find the most stupidist stuff funny (because to be honest most of the stuff is stupid.)
-I am jealous of the fact that she can laugh at his puns (actually no I’m not)
That’s really it
‘If he was my man I would not be okay with it’ okay I didn’t ask for your opinion, and I really don’t need a lecture about something that isn’t any of your business. Lastly he’s not your man he’s mine.
Back the Fuck off Bitches!